THE INVISIBLE BOYFRIEND

By Vernalee

The Today Show featured an interesting segment called “The Invisible Boyfriend” that had many folks glued to the tube.

Maybe you were one of them!

Yes, “The Invisible Boyfriend” is real! If you don’t believe me, google it.

“The Invisible Boyfriend” is a service that gives you “real world and social proof that you are in a relationship.” Yep, it is a website whereby you can send text messages and communicate to a nonexistent person…and he answers back! You can also create on this website an invisible boyfriend with all the features that you want in a man. What an exciting apparition!

Moving from the abstract to reality,

I masterfully had a premonition and reflected upon another brilliant discovery!

Drumroll .... if you please!

What about those real life boyfriends whose behaviors, or shall I say lack thereof, make them invisible?

Ladies, how many stories can you remember or confidentially share about them beyond the theoretical?

You know the things that they should do, but don’t; the things that make them invisible!

You can reach out and touch their hands, but have they made your world a better place!

These guys fit the category of being real in the flesh and the relationship, but invisible in deeds and in satisfying their partners’ physical, emotional, sexual, and other apparent visible needs?

What is interesting is the denial. If you confront that invisible man of yours and tell him what you need, and he starts making excuses, pretends he doesn’t know what you’re talking about, or indicates that he will do better (to get you off his back) when in fact, he has no intentions of doing so, you will become more frustrated.

Keep in mind ...If his actions are invisible, so is he!

You may have to finally recognize that you cannot make him what you need him to be. You may have to give up the invisibility and move on with a real man!

Alright for my male readers, before you get angry; there is equality! I don't ever want you to feel left out. I understand that there is an “Invisible Girlfriend." Research it if you desire.

If you have been an invisible boyfriend, you have a heads up! No doubt, you know all about her. She has all of the "do nothing,” invisible and identifiable characteristics that you possess!

Try her on for size and see if you become as frustrated and disenchanted as you made your girl back in the day. “What goes around, comes around!” Photo credit: www.outcastradio.net

C'MON..."YOU KNEW I WAS A SNAKE WHEN YOU PICKED ME UP"

By Vernalee

Being a prolific storyteller, allow me to tell you the story about the snake and his new found friend. You probably have heard it in some form or fashion. A man picked up an injured snake that was lying across the road. The man bandaged and nursed the snake back to good health. They lived harmoniously together for a spell. Then, one day out of the blue, the snake bit the man. Devastated, the man emotionally said, “I picked you up, nursed you back to health, fed and clothed you, and you bit me. Is this the thanks that I get?” The snake politely answered and said, “You knew that I was a snake when you picked me up!” Yes, that’s right; the snake talked; his actions spoke loud and clear for him! Wake up people! Stop thinking that you can change people. They can only change themselves. Don’t assume that one good turn deserves another! Just because you treat people right, it doesn’t mean that they will reciprocate. Some folks will turn on you, no matter what you do or have done for them! Things are not always what they seem. Be wise; watch your back. Need I add, watch your front and sides too! Beware of the snakes. They are everywhere… Metaphorically, they walk; they talk; they even sit … often times next to you. Occasionally, they are hard to detect. Disguises are one of their major forms of deception.

They pretend to be on your side, however they may dislike the very ground that you walk upon. Remember, it was the serpent that deceived Eve and filled her head with a lot of garbage that led to her and Adam’s demise. In addition to their convincing deception, they can be poisonous. Stay on the lookout!

Keep your guards up!

Stop imagining and pretending. You definitely don’t want to he bitten by a so called snake of a friend! It would be devastating. Photo credit: www.clipartonline.net